When Gor Goes Stale
I’ve been in Gor for more than a decade. My experience here has been one of both good times and bad times, but mostly it’s been full of learning and personal growth. All those years ago, I set my feet upon the path of the Free Woman and I’ve never looked back.
It hasn’t been easy for me, there were a lot of bumps in the road; however, I was always able to hold to my core principles, my sense of what I believed (and was told by more experienced Goreans) to be right and true and I have been able to walk my path with integrity, pride and honor, though at times, admittedly very lonely as I’ve never had a companion, I’ve never been a slave but for period of 8 months I did own a slave. All in all, while I have enjoyed my Gorean experience thus far, it is not without it’s not so great moments.
It’s dawned on me, not so recently, that my journey though Gor has somewhat come to a halt. It has gone somewhat stale. There are few topics that I haven’t discussed, there are few things that are appropriate for a free woman that I have not done. My Gorean experience has gotten monotonous and a little dull.
So what is there out there for other women like me, who find themselves in a place where they feel like there’s not much left for them or that feel like they’re in a rut or simply things have just grown stale for them?
Well believe it or not, free woman have several options. We can find a free companion to spice things up a bit for us. We can enter into a free woman contract for a period of time and become slaves, or we can simply engage in a little role play while we are in Palace. We can serve food and drinks to our visiting guests. In fact, that’s a very free womanly thing to do.
Many free women believe that the only viable option for a free woman is option 1, taking a free companion. In fact, for the longest time, I was one of those women. While I have had plenty of offers for companionship through the years, my view on that has always been a resounding no. For me, personally, I have a husband offline, I don’t need one online too. As for other women, there is nothing wrong with seeking a little romance and enjoyment out of your online experience.
My views on option 2 have always been that to simply enter into a contract to become a slave for a little while just for the sake of exploring or because you’re curious or bored would be an insult to both the free woman and the slave. That once a woman is a slave, she is always a slave and should she choose freedom again then she is nothing more than a failed slave.
Over the past couple of years, I’ve come to realize that the above statement is just ridiculous and was taught to me by bitter free women who were jealous of slaves and who really wished it but didn’t have the courage to seek it, or by men who have a vested interest in keeping women on their knees at the feet of men. My views on option 2 have changed in that if a woman should choose to explore a different side of Gor, there is definitely value in the process and she should get the support of the community, but especially by those who are her friends.
For women who are not comfortable for the above two options, there is always option 3. When you have guests in your home in the real world, would you not offer them food or drinks? I would certainly hope so! Those things being said, why not, engage in a little role play while you’re sitting in your palace and serve drinks or food? Now, many women will simply spill the drinks on the man, or deliberately serve poorly perhaps so that the free man she is serving doesn’t think that she’s trying to compete with slaves. Yes, that’s a real possibility; a man might think that if you are serving him something to drink and you do it with grace and respect that you are somehow competing with slaves. This notion I reject wholeheartedly.
There is nothing more insulting to the status of a free woman than to see one who is deliberately ungraceful and who would pour or spill something on the guests in their home. It’s shameful. I’m not saying that you have to serve with passion or ‘heat’ and I’m not saying that you should flirt while doing it either, but just be graceful. Picture yourself in your real life home, how would you serve there? If you go by that standard, you can never go wrong.
So back to my original topic at hand, what is it that we do when Gor goes stale? Learn, do and act. Be engaged in Gor when you’re online. Don’t lose sight of your friends, still discuss how their day went, and discuss real life things if you wish, but don’t leave Gor completely out of it. Enjoy it!
I have no idea what the next chapter in my journey holds for me, none of us really do, but I think that if we continue to sit by idly and not take the time to enjoy the things that brought us to Gor in the first place, before we know it, Gor will simply pass us by.
I wish you all well
Good stuff
well said Mistress
{karimah}Å«Fo§»
I found this very well written, and something similar to what I went through, in my own decision between Option 1 and 2. I chose slavery and for the last 7 months, have found a peace I never knew could exist within ones self. For me it was the proper choice.
When I was a FW , I often served guests in my own home, sometimes to shock, and mostly a silent awe. Never once did I stray from the position I was in as a Free Woman. Always, as my mentor taught me, to be Graceful and elegant was the way of the Free Woman, with a bit of Outspokenness to keep Men on their toes!
While I no longer reside on Gor, it’s core values, the ways I was taught and learned, still survive deep inside me. Perhaps one day I will return again…who knows what the future holds for us all!
Till then I wish you well.
kalli- Opals lil imp
formerly Ra`eesha of Ar